think about the THINKING when you are “thinking”…..

to begin with, let me ask me a question. What makes you leave bed?

to woo him/her ?  If not, you will be late to office ?

its your turn to drop the kids to school ?

you live as per a schedule ? tired of sleeping ? hungry ?

whatever may be the reason we make a decision to leave our bed to start a day (or night for some people). once we are up, we have to keep on making decisions, trivial or tougher.

some people choose to have “come what may” attitude and try to be crazy, react spontaneously, act on the spur of the moment with whatever comes to mind.

Some prefer to lead a schematic monotonous life. designated time to do everything from wake up to good night.

And the last type which is more common is corporate. Working hard on weekdays and chilling out on weekends thinking they are the coolest and they have the optimal mixture of monotonous and craziness life styles. Alas!,  they too are monotonous in a way if you look at a bigger picture.

Nevertheless, this article is not about the life style or I am not gonna criticize/admire any way of living. But at one particular point of time be it any guy from the above life styles, will definitely wonder about.

what this is all about ? what is the race ? Is this worth ?

and very few people realize that “this is a mad rush to no where….”

that came out a bit philosophical than I thought, never mind. The verb I am trying to focus on here is Think.  The way we think is based on the way we learn. We learn as per what we see/read/experience and mostly by whatever our parents say.

Irrespective of the source of knowledge once we know certain things we start making decisions. Facts/factors/inclinations/effects will be involved in making a decision. Once we are a bit familiar in making decisions(choosing), the earlier made decisions will be base-lined(will be taken as base)/considered as THINKING(or your instinct).

As we move on, we don’t really go back to the basics of decision making (facts/factors/inclinations/effects) while deciding something. Basing on this THINKING there are many games/puzzles/exercises invented, asking you to tell what comes to your mind first upon hearing some word or they will be some stupid questions and you need to pick one answer. So that your answers will reveal your THINKING. They are right up to some extent, because most times we don’t really think it through as we don’t think beyond THINKING.

Coming to the purpose of the article, its necessary for us to keep visiting our base-lined decisions/instinct/THINKING frequently and change the base if necessary. Because the factors/facts/inclinations what you had at the point of making that base-lined decision might not hold good today. Some times changes may fan out very badly, still we need to do it, because Live and Learn is much better than being boring and dead.

P.S: I am not at all an over thinker of the situation. 🙂 all I wanted to say is  give a second thought to your decisions by thinking about your THINKING. !

Actual Penned Date: may 27, 2014

Identity Crisis

Identity, irrespective of people admit it or not, everyone wants their own identity, fair enough. As to portray that they are not the same as the other 7billion on this earth; everyone wants to be unique in their way.
But at the cost of, ruining a relation? Or breaking a heart/trust?

“She/He has to come for what I am  …”    (line 1)
“This is what I am and this is what I will be I am not going to change for any one ….”  (line 2)
“If I keep changing myself one day I will not be what I was.”   (line 3)

Most times when I ask the question, why you guys break up, these are the lines that were thrown at me. But for me these answers sprouted more questions. But didn’t ask them as the questions of courtesy should end at that point.
Anyways here I want to express my thoughts on these answers.
(line 1) At first She/He came for what you are. So how can it be the same reason for you to break up? Could it be something else that you are missing?
(line 2) Priorities change. Per say, you wake up by 7 am daily. But for some reason office timings got changed or you are posted to a different branch. So you try to wake up by 6 or 6 30. Here you changed yourself for whatever the reason. So why can’t she/he be the reason for any other change in you?
(line 3) Time changes everybody. Now you don’t look the way when you are 5 years old. You don’t think the same way you already did if you are stuck in solving a problem. For that matter you might not be having same opinion about something what you had ten years before. So you will be never what you were. Perspective changes. Why can’t She/he might bring you a new perspective.

The only answer I can think of all these questions and the identity crisis is not actually about identity.
Prior to the point of break up, they actually do things that they don’t like for their partner’s happiness. They don’t seem to remember their so called identity at that point of time. But from then it can be two paths that leads to break up.
One is you keep doing things for her/him but not being reciprocated properly from your partner. Using technical jargon, a point of threshold reaches where you actually start worrying about the difference between what you give and what you get.
Two, irrespective of you reach the threshold or not, you might end up in a situation where you have to do something that you really don’t want to do or let go of something that affects your passion or any other big thing for you.
In the first case you could have open up and say what you feel.
In the second case you can tell that you don’t want to do it because of all your personal inclinations are in the other way round.

Both the cases, to end it or not is completely left to your discretion. But what I point here is Identity is not the reason for you to break it off. You do a million things that break your identity, but only thing is you are blind to notice that when you choose to do it.
The truth is Identity is just a word they use to defend themselves when they have to do something that they don’t want to do OR they have to let go of something that they really can’t.
That’s it! and this is not just limited to love or relations, we can see this crisis for identity everywhere. For me it seems like fighting a battle and win over in one face but you keep loosing it to yourself.
On a different note, I really want to know what identity is. I hear some people saying.
 “I am not like others, I do things differently …”
Is it really possible? Are they really unique? Are there really 7 billion different IDENTITIES living here?!!

Actual Penned Date : April 27, 2014

Plagiarism

I really don’t give in to the word plagiarism.

Everything that I write here – is what came out of my mind unless OTHERWISE mentioned.

Words of mine may sound similar or it might be a déjà vu for you. Trust me with minor/major difference of acts most of us live the same lives, so do I. If you think you already came across something that you see here, it may very well due to the overlap of environment for we live in.

If you come across the stuff that you know already, do bear in mind that most things what we are doing now or talking now, be it science or any damn thing it already existed in past and thought by our ancestors.

So it’s always a different man speaking the same thing or doing the same thing at a different point of time. We really don’t have anything that is real novice. That’s the sad truth.

For that matter, I would like to point out that Bhagavad Gita on the fields of Kurukshetra itself is a repetition of what Lord said long time ago to Sun.(I do respect Gita, the excerpt is just an example. No offence meant, not ready to take any offence too)

So to conclude be it intentional act of copying or a random coincidence of happening, we don’t need to really crib about the word plagiarism. That is the imminent part of our lives/world.

Actual Penned Date : April 26, 2014